i’m just trying to be a professionally successful/well-traveled/well-educated woman of God with an always affectionate heart towards others & a never-ending dedication to bettering myself
“You deserve kindness, happiness, a listener, a story teller, someone who speaks so highly of you that even strangers start to fall in love with the way the person speaks about you.
And I am trying, god how hard I’m trying to be that person.”
My brothers friend is getting married next week, and my brother approached me and told me that i shouldn’t forget that looks and attractiveness to your spouse is important although it may certainly not be your primary goal….anyways my sister in law waited till my brother made his comment and sat next to me and said
“but sometimes dear, meeting a person once isn’t enough to see their beauty, sometimes when they speak of something they are passionate about they glow, when they are caring for others they suddenly seem different, othertimes the way they eat can make you laugh in love with them, sometimes their manners bring out their beauty….”
her point was, that it’s okay if you meet someone at first and you think “ hmmmm maybe not…? “ but there is more to physical beauty than an eye can capture in a one time 30 minute meeting. And i think we have to keep that in mind both in a marriage and non marriage context. Remember to look at yourself and look beyond what the mirror is telling you.
Your smile isn’t simple. Those lips aren’t just small or big, those teeth aren’t just crooked or straight, your skin isn’t too dark or red, that chin isn’t too round or pointy, the mirror doesn’t tell you that each of those things dancing together hold your smile. A two minute glance in a mirror won’t fully capture your beauty. So take the time to familiarize yourself with the feautures Allah has chosen for you, and take the time to love em lots. Don’t you dare simplify the work of Allah in 1 minute. Okay?
